All I needed for another day

All this talk of musical instruments. And then Calliope said "These days my voice is my only instrument." And it reminded me of how much I loved this song. I've just had it on repeat for about ten minutes, writing this. And yes, singing along.

I still remember watching this video, and thinking...look at these blokes, all so normal looking, and in a pub, doing what blokes do...and they sound like this! I don't know, it was a bit of a musical revelation for me, having grown up liking guitars and rock and yelling and swearing and amps turned up to 11. I hope you enjoy it.

The Flying Pickets - Only You.





Some more questions -

Do you think it's the most important thing to have a good romantic partnership? I mean, it certainly seems like it could be wonderful, but what if a person never finds someone they feel romantic about, should they try to just pair up with someone they like but don't really feel in love with?

That's such a hard question - I mean, it's got to be down to the person, hasn't it? How important it is to be 'with' someone.

Personally, I get lonely. I don't know why - I don't know if it's just how my brain works, or because I haven't ever really been alone much in my life. But for me, I am, generally, happier with a partner. Is it important that it's romantic? Again, personally, it is - but it hasn't always been. Now, though, it is.

I'm sorry this isn't really an answer. I know some people who, while not permanently single, have always lived alone, because they value their own space so highly. I actually know one married couple who still have 'their own' flats and have never lived together. And other people who certainly don't seem overtly 'romantic' when I've met them - but I can't know what they're like home alone.

So, no, it's only as important as you make it, I suppose is the answer.


There are some people I know (yes, truly, not someone standing in for me. Let's call them A and B. A and B have recently entered a relationship. Except B is married to C. I...am conflicted. One one hand, they're happy together, on the other, C is, as far as I know, unknowing. I don't know C, I just know A and B, and did before they got together. And it's...painful, to put it mildly, to watch their relationship play out in front of me, knowing what I know. I'm dreadfully uncomfortable with it all, I think the entire situation is completely unfair as there are no plans for B to divorce C, but I don't know how to tell them they're sort of being jerks about it all without sounding like a total prude, which, I'm not, normally, but...Sigh.

This...sorry it's taken so long. I don't feel like I have an answer to this, either. And with you not knowing C, it's even harder.

If I were C, I'd want to know. But I say that as someone who's been there - except...well, I knew, I knew my 'B' was cheating and I didn't know what to do about it, and my life was going to hell anyway so I sort of buried my head in the sand a bit - and actually, a friend telling me, it sort of...I felt like it gave me a bit of strength, and sort of validated my feelings...and this story loses all purpose here because I still handled it horribly badly, but my circumstances were probably very different. And the person who told me was a mutual friend, so it's not even the same situation.

I suppose if it were me I'd try to talk to A, maybe, and sort of frame it as 'I'm just worried about you, given B's situation, and don't want you being hurt', maybe? If that would work. And that might give you more of an idea of how much you think C knows...


Right. Today was good. Everyone bought something they needed. Mycroft tried to make me buy a tie, and I got great joy out of teasing him by pretending to like lurid shirts. I also got great joy out of watching John try on jeans.

I'm watching my poll with interest, by the way. Hmmmm.