My sister gleefully informs me that It's St. Gregory's day today. Patron saint of Music and singing. She thinks this is an omen for The Jammy Badgers.
(also saint of teachers and students. Let's gloss over that though, as I didn't follow that bit of my namesake...)
She's threatened to find a picture of me from Silver Blaze. If she does, and if it's not too awful, I'll edit it in here later.
Right. She delivered. I removed the truly awful ones.
I can only imagine I was singing...
Lost in the music...and smoking. Don't do that.
Now, don't judge the next two. The lovely lighting in the background could be something very professional and...
...okay, it's actually the Gents' toilets of the pub we were in. It was a very hot, smelly pub. There wasn't a stage as much as a gap in the tables where various bands stuck to the floor with the amount of spilled lager. Just be glad that door isn't open in any of these pictures...
200 comments:
Who'd of thought it :-) the jammy badgers are gona be a hit :-)
Saint of teachers too that really is interesting (to me anyway)
More photos are always good hope its a nice one :-)
How's work going? Hope its settled down now you're back up and running.
Anony
Settled a bit. Actually out in the sunshine today, which is nice.
I find saints' days fascinating, and St. Gregory sounds like a good one for you.
Are you out in the sunshine looking at something horrible or simply topping up your vitamin D (while working very hard I'm sure)?
Glad it's settled down for you :-)
Anony
also saint of teachers and students
Who says you didn't follow that bit? There are lots of (G rated, thankyouverymuch) ways to teach and learn. (Or possibly PG-13 if we include your online Q&As, which I think we should.)
Sunshine, what sunshine? Could you either send it west now, or hang onto it for later in the week when I'm in the great metropolis.
And RR's right: I've learnt all sorts of things from this blog.
Speaking of Q&A--if you discover all the clementines in a bag in the frig are covered with blue and gray mold, should one assume someone's growing penicillin and put it back, or chuck it?
(Yep, it's Monday all right.)
Ha, all right, maybe I've grown into that bit of my sainthood.
In our flat, RR, you have to ask Sherlock if the mould is just mould, or an experiment, and then ask John if permission was sought for said experiment. He does try and play John and me off against each other, despite knowing it gets him in a lot of trouble.
Anony - looking for a weapon, so not too horrible
Heh. Well, since Sherlock isn't currently visiting here, I chucked 'em.
(My sisters and I tried the playing the parents/authority figures against each other thing fairly regularly, not that it ever worked. My brother just didn't ask permission. That didn't work too well either. :))
Enjoy the sunshine! We've a sunny, warm day predicted for NY, too, yay!
Sherlock's discovering it doesn't work. But is also doing multiple tests to ensure this is always the result.
Just heard on the radio 83% of sexual assault victims (I think the survey was all women, but I'm not sure) don't want to tell the police.
As a police officer that saddens me. I hope it would sadden all of society. I understand it, but...yeah.
Hope you find what you're looking for Greg :-)
It doesn't surprise me that its such a high percentage to be honest, I'm sure the police are great with these things really but anything you see or read about how they handle such cases is always the bad stuff.
If you feel it unlikely that the police will get the person convicted I think people would prefer not to have to go through all the official stuff.
It is very sad though :-(
Anony
No, doesn't surprise me ,either.
I'm just sad that the police have that reputation - sad that they've earned that reputation - sad that society still stigmatises the victim as well as the attacker. Sad that the system does fail the victims.
Like I said, I do completely understand it. I just wish it wasn't so.
The more good, nice policemen people meet the better things will be I guess :-)
We rely on the good guys to change our perception and the good guys will get there in the end :-)
Anony
Very scientific of Sherlock--what if the first result was an outlier? :)
That is sad, L, and it is understandable. As Anony said, what the media report are the cases where the police blame the victim, or where they fail to keep the victim's name confidential, and it's not going to help to know that these are only news stories because they're rare. And then there are all the other reasons for not wanting to report sexual attacks, on top of that.
It's even sadder and more scary when you realize that means sexual assault is terrifyingly common in "normal" society, if only 17% are being reported--even if you say 25%, on the theory that some will be reported even if the victim doesn't want to. (And I have to assume that a similar survey of men would come up with an even higher percentage not wanting to report.)
It is sad that there is still often the assumption "she (normally she) was asking for it anyway". But also that, whatever reputation the police have earned, if there was the desire from within society as a whole that anyone who had been sexually assaulted be treated as any other victim of crime, then there would be a greater expectation of them being properly treated by the police.
Not sure I've put that very well.
Yeah, I would think the percentage of men reporting things - or telling anyone at all - is higher.
I would even think fewer men would take part in a survey, to be honest.
Anony, thanks! Now I have the I Still Haven't Found What I'm Looking For playing in my head. Which wouldn't be so bad if my player were not playing Creep by Radiohead at the moment...
L - yup, it is sad. And it is sad that many people don't see it like something too bad. Like "What are you crying about, it's just sex" attitude. Didn't happen to me but to a friend of mine. She was basically shown that by showing weakness after rape she was being hysterical and irrational. Bleh!
CR - I think there's a problem generally with anyone telling any victim of crime how they 'should've be feeling.
With crimes against the person there's no right or wrong. As it is though, there's the attitude you mention, and, equally if someone seems to be coping 'too well' the assumption they're either lying, or that it wasn't really that bad.
No one can tell anyone else how they should feel.
I was sexually assaulted when I was 18, I didn't tell anyone not because of the police but because of having to tell family and get that look that people give the 'ah love are you really sure that's what happened' look.
It isn't a problem with the police normally I don't think.
Sorry CR ;-)
I would hate to be a man in such an awful situation, I have no idea how they would ever have the courage to tell anyone. As a society we suck with these things we really do :-(
Anony
I think it more complex than simply not trusting the police. For example, I suspect I'd act differently I'm different circumstances, I know I'd be more worried about facing a defence barrister in court than speaking to a police officer, and I might simply value my privacy too much. And that's all without the variable reputation of various police forces around the country.
I dunno whether some of those situations can be resolved or not. Some if the problems are clearly systemic, but some aren't.
Anonymous - I'm sorry to hear that. I hope that you found a way of dealing with what happened, alone or with the help of others.
Nameless - I'm not entirely blaming the police. Hence saying that I hope society as a whole thinks this is a bad situation. I know a lot of people never tell anyone, or don't until years and years later. Which isn't to say that that's wrong. Just that I think more people would tell someone if society as a whole dealt with the issue better.
A lot of people find it hardest to tell the people closest to them, or risk those people finding out
Life is good now but thats the first time I've said it out loud not that it's suddenly made any difference to me which I always thought it might!
Strange what suddenly leaves your head anonymously on the internet!
Too right, L. People have inherently different coping mechanisms, and they are "supposed" to feel whatever it is they actually do feel. Expecting two different people to react to anything the same way makes as much sense as an engineer expecting two intrinsically different materials to respond to pressure the same way--it not only is not going to happen, it makes no sense to expect it to happen (and would result in no few spectacularly collapsed buildings).
I'm sorry, Anonymous.
Anonymous - I'm really glad that you've had the opportunity to say it, Anon or not, and glad, in a way, that it hasn't made a difference. Also very glad life is good now. I can entirely relate :)
don't start that RR thats what I've been avoiding.
sorry RR with just words that looks horrid I didn't mean it like that.
Thanks Greg
Okay, Anonymous. No worries.
L, I've been looking up St. Gregory's day, and apparently he has two, depending on which church one is a member of, March 12 or September 3. Are we meant to celebrate both, then? :)
And just what does this celebration entail? Do we dress as bikers? Play guitar? Get something pierced? .... 0_0
All of the above?
...
Would you consider swapping cooking something for piercing something?
I'd be interested to see thebreasons behind the percentage. I'd imagine its the same as why people don't tell their supervisors, they're wary of "duty to report"
On a more cheerful topic, I think we should also have linzer tarts, which are jakmie Dodgers but 3 times as big and with icing sugar.
Linzer tarts look good.
RR - I can pierce toes with forks whilst cooking, so if you'd like me to help I will, otherwise I'll stay out of the kitchen and continue to party on the porch.
I could manage dressing as a biker and kind of playing guitar but there is no way I can get something pierced before the end of the day. I guess that will have to wait for September 3rd.
Is there anything specific we have to get pierced do you think RR? Greg? or is it our own decision? ;-)
Anony
Oh, entirely up to you.
The original Gregorius was a monk, I think. You could always just have a weird haircut, wear a robe and take a vow of chastity instead. I won't be doing that, though...
that doesn't sound much like something I could do ;-)
think I'll stick with piercing something I just have to decide what ;-)
Anony
RR I am really sorry, that first sentence should probably have had a smillie of some sort on it because it really was supposed to be some kind of weird joke.
I'm not going to say anymore apart from thankyou to you and Greg, things feel just a bit more smiley here for some strange reason, maybe it has changed something.
Thanks.
Really, Anonymous, no apologies needed, it's fine. As I said, you are supposed to feel whatever it is you feel, and if you feel happier, so much the better.
The original Gregorius was a monk, I think.
And a Pope, if Wikipedia is to be trusted. (Popes do dress better than monks, so...but I suppose that might be thought sacriligious.) After whom Gregorian chant is named, so something musical does seem appropriate on every level! (And I have all the holes in me that I want, thank you all the same... :) )
I'm going to struggle to get anything safely pierced today... but if Gregorius was a pope, well the pope wears red shoes, I'm wearing red shoes, consider it a celebration :-)
I have some Stevie Ray Vaughan playing, that should cover the guitar part...
SH - pierce toes? Eeep, no thank you! :D I'd rather celebrate in the kitchen, thanks! I do make some really excellent chocolate lava cakes!
I'm still waiting to find out what John's going to do to celebrate St Greg day! Cone on Danger, tell us!
You're not going to try and persuade him on the piercing are you Greg???
Anony
Nameless: the pope wears red shoes, I'm wearing red shoes, consider it a celebration :-)
That is the most perfect logic.
I could wear a funny hat and bless people? While playing air guitar?
I don't think I've heard a better idea than that all day John :-)
Sounds like the perfect way to celebrate and a little less painful than piercing something ;-)
Anony
I could wear a funny hat and bless people? While playing air guitar?
If you do this I WANT A PICTURE!!! Pleeeeeaaaaaaase?
(Are purple boots close enough to red shoes?)
You know Sherlock is going to feel that the only proper way to celebrate is with pizza. *face of angelic innocence*
It says today is the FEAST DAY. We should have a feast of pizza and ice cream.
(You're welcome, Sherlock. :) )
*sidles quietly out the door*
Welcome to what?
I was just teasing with the "You're welcome," Sherlock--I know you didn't me to suggest pizza.
(But since you just had pizza on Saturday, John and Lestrade might not want it again so soon. Although it IS a feast day!)
I certainly feel blessed, having you around :)
I also have to work nights on Fri and Sat. Because, I quote, I 'got off' my last scheduled nights.
(Didn't NEED me to suggest etc....)
L, that's is the most ridiculous thing I ever heard--"got off" indeed. *scowl*
seriously Greg that can't be right!!
The whole mess of the last few weeks stinks!
Are nights quieter than days? sleeping during the day at weekend must be almost impossible ;-(
Anony
My DCI has a way with words...
Nights can be very quiet, yeah.
I'd rather have more notice, but whoever covered the nights I missed didn't get any, so at least I'm doing better than they did.
Off being all reasonable again Mr Lestrade ;-)
I hope they are quiet but that's just not fair is it? families have plans and work shouldn't be getting in the way of them :-( shift work is bad enough when it follows a rota.
Will Sherlock be able to cope with you sleeping or will John be having to sit in the park all day? Or is Sherlock with his Mrs H this weekend?
Anony
Well, I suppose this past weekend would have been worse, but still. *muttering to self*
Greg, I've got a question for your immense good sense and advice. It's kind of related to sexual assault, kind of not, but if you get involved with someone and you have something that's affected you negatively in the past (say, sexual assault, or a traumatic experience) how long would you wait to tell them? Because it has affected you, but you don't tell many people, but you trust them and want them to be around for longer.
On a happier note, I am celebrating St Greg's with Queen, jam, ice cream, a delicious meal, and sunshine. Hope yours is as good!
I'll have a think on that, jaws. I feel like I'm entirely the wrong person to ask, but... I'll think and try to form an answer that makes sense.
Your St Greg's celebrations sound brilliant!
Anony - Friday and Saturday sadly least likely to be quiet. But glad it's not the weekend just gone, when Mycroft was back, or the one at the end of the month, when it's a certain Doctor's birthday...
I guess it's the best one to do it then :-) sleep will not be easy though so be careful!
Doctor Johns birthday!!! hope you have something amazing planned ;-)
Anony
the one at the end of the month, when it's a certain Doctor's birthday...
Oho! Got some interesting plans for that? (No, no, don't answer that. :))
There might be some plans in the making... I couldn't possibly say.
Clearly not.
(Is Sherlock getting his St. Gregory feast day feast?)
Depends what he wants and if he's been good. Have to ask John.
I missed my blog's 1yr anniversary! Sorry, blog.
Your poor blog ;-)
Glad there are some plans in the making for Doc's birthday, forgetting that would get you in more trouble than forgetting the blogs birthday ;-)
Anony
Oh, hey--that's awesome, L! When was the overlooked anniversary?
John--did he? (Sherlock get his feast day feast, I mean. :))
(Or "is he", if that makes more sense tense-wise.)
20th or 23rd Feb, I think. I'll check later.
Feb 20, huh? I guess you'll just have to fold the anniversary into your St Gregory celebration, then.
(You could still put up a belatedly special blog post. Really, it's more special if it's late--not everyone celebrates an anniversary 3 weeks late!)
John'll have to hope I'll do better on our anniversary.
We could call this an exercise in lowering expectations--or say you just have your priorities straight. :)
Sherlock--a friend sent me this link: http://icanhascheezburger.com/2012/03/12/advice-animals-memes-the-most-interesting-cat-in-the-world/
and I right away thought of you, because of the last line. :)
Oh, and L--this one: http://icanhascheezburger.com/2012/03/10/funny-animal-captions-wandering-lonely/
is clearly meant for you.
I didn't get a feast or pizza Lestrade made some yellow stuff and sauce like for pasta but there is ice cream.
Yellow stuff? that sounds interesting Sherlock ;-)
Great news about the ice cream though.
Anony
Just have to edit a :-( in there.
Oh, well, Sherlock--pasta and ice cream sounds like a pretty good deal to me! Sort of feast-ish, you might say.
And I thought you might think this one is pretty funny: http://icanhascheezburger.com/2012/03/11/advice-animals-memes-anti-joke-chicken-its/
and now a :-)
Anony
It wasn't pasta, it was yellow stuff.
Sherlock, the yellow stuff and sauce will probably do a better job of helping you grow big enough to ride with Lestrade and John. And ice cream is always a treat!
I'm sorry, Sherlock, I misunderstood. Did Lestrade say what the yellow stuff is?
(And there's still the ice cream! What flavor?)
It was fried polenta. Or, if you're John, 'Yellow stuff'.
Oh, yummmm! That ought to be feast-y enough. :)
Ah, something L said that I could safely google. And yes, I'll stick with yellow stuff.
I figured polenta. I've not yet tried it, but I've heard fried polenta with bolognaise is fantastic.
Did you get chocolate ice cream, Sherlock? I thought of you when I made S'mores yesterday, I wished I could send you one through the post.
I'm celebrating St Greg's Day with coffee, and marmite on my toast. Morning all!
Mmm, fried polenta. I'm jealous.
Fried polenta sounds delicious. I've never hat it, though.
I'm jealous of the ice cream. Did you enjoy it?
I only had fried polenta once, in a restaurant that has since closed, but I remember it very fondly. :)
If yellow stuff isn't interesting, there's always
http://www.doctordreadful.com/index.html
(warning - flash only site with noise.)
:-)
Anony
Greg, I've got a question for your immense good sense and advice. It's kind of related to sexual assault, kind of not, but if you get involved with someone and you have something that's affected you negatively in the past (say, sexual assault, or a traumatic experience) how long would you wait to tell them? Because it has affected you, but you don't tell many people, but you trust them and want them to be around for longer.
Firstly...thanks for the flattery :)
I feel like this is yet another question I can't really answer without saying 'It's different for everyone'.
It really depends on how much it effects you, I think. And how.
I've been wondering if I should say this ever since Anonymous's comment earlier, about never having admitted never having said it 'out loud'. I think most of you who've been here a while will have read between the lines and realise there are things I've never said 'out loud' either…and even after typing all that, and really thinking I would…I still can't. And I've been writing this comment for about and hour now. And I may as well. But…that's what it can do to your mind.
So, how do you tell your partner? I think, once you're sure about them – in the way I'm so sure about John – then you just have to pick a quiet moment, one that may way involve some…well, for me, cuddling, but nothing more, and sort of…say it in any way you feel comfortable, using the language you want, and, if you feel you need to, explain that it shouldn't change things. Or maybe it should. Or things you need them to know, maybe things you don't like. And maybe you need to say to them that you just need to say everything before they speak. Or maybe you’d rather say a little, and then ask if they have questions. I really really can't tell anyone how to do it.
And be aware that this will be a new thing for them. You might have had years to come to terms with it – for them it will be a new hurt. And they might need to ask a few questions, or just…think about it for a while.
So, for how long you wait, it just has to be 'until you're ready', really.
I hope you find a way that works for you.
And now this answer has been on the screen for a good twenty minutes I'm goin to hit post before I change my mind.
It's a very good answer, L.
And all the rest, too.
My god Greg you are amazing!!
How you form such responses to what we have to ask you with all you have going on yourself I don't know. You amaze me everytime. Please believe how grateful I am for all your answers.
Anony
You're very kind :)
(That reply broke my blog! What's a 503? Mycroft?)
I honestly wouldn't be talking about this kind of thing without John's love and support, and without feeling so much better about everything since meeting him and the boys - and all of you lot on here!
I've been getting 503 on and off all day! Hope Mycroft can sort it :-)
Whatever reason you are now able to talk about things I'm so glad you are for your benefit and for all of ours.
I can't believe how glad I am that I came across your and John's blogs :-)
Anony
I don't really talk about things. I talk all around them. Which is...maybe enough, for me. Or maybe one day it won't be. Who knows? If it's meant to happen,m it will.
Lestrade, I don't know how you manage to say all the right things, but Christ you're in the right job. I don't think you're a "hugging strangers" kind of person, and I'm not a "hugging anyone" kind of person. So, in lieu of hugs, have a metric ton(ne) of your favorite coffee beans kept in storage in a hermetically sealed space craft, in geostationary orbit around the Earth directly over London with an on-demand vacuum tube direct to your coffee bean grinder.
Would we all were as lucky in love as you've been with John.
round and round in circles that just happen to look more like a spiral when you stand back from it :-)
Very few people can actually speak things out loud in a straight forward way and to be honest the longer you haven't said something the harder it becomes to say.
Anony
DW - I'm meant to be cutting down! (Don't mind if I do though, thanks...don't mind the noise, it's just the grinder. Very kind.)
Thing is, in person, I really don't say the right things, quite often. I prefer writing it down, gives me time to think about it all and choose my words better.
And yeah, I wish everyone who wants it could find someone as perfect as John is to me.
Anony - yeah :) something like that. I always think once you've danced around something enough, you've left an obvious outline, so the person can see what it was you're avoiding anyway. Like a chalk line around a body. (not that we do that to bodies.)
do you really not draw chalk lines round bodies? I thought that was how it worked ;-)
Those who want to see will see things far before you ever get to saying it that is for sure. In the end it becomes a simple thing of saying yes when they dare to ask atleast it is with people who love you if you don't have someone who cares enough to notice it's probably never going to be right to tell them anyway!
I hardly speak to anyone all day because I never know what to say to them so I am right with you there Greg. You will probably have noticed that when it comes to writing things down and checking them ten times before sending them on I am rarely short of something to say ;-)
Anony
L - I love you. Pretty sure I'm the lucky one.
(And am dreadfully disappointed you don't really draw chalk outlines around bodies...)
You're lucky to have each other that way there is no argument :-)
Anony
Sorry. But a. it would make my crime scenes all chalky! and b. it would just turn to mushy-chalky-blood most of the time! Nowadays we use this new technology called 'photography' :)
Shall we settle on both being lucky? And did you like the Yellow Stuff? Does it get into Stuff and Things - Chapter Two: Stuff of Many Colours?
Errr...Don't tell Mrs H, but Mycroft's top notch education at one of the best schools in the country has just led him to email this to me, with the single line. 'Could The Jammy Badgers do with some inspiration?'
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m8rzkCkFIus&sns=fb
Jammy Badgers...I don't know whether to laugh or be insulted...Or remember that John has, in fact, both worn a kilt and played bagpipes before. Who's with me??
Photography well who'd have thought it! ;-)
Loving the video but I think the unicycles might just be beyond us, kilt and bagpipes should be fine though.
Anony
Mycroft, that might be the best thing I've ever seen.
L - photography, pfft. A passing fad, much like the internet. The Yellow Stuff was delicious. Can it be deep fried as well?
It can be rolled in breadcrumbs and deep fried...
(And now you've said that, I'll add that Mycroft's email was two lines. The first was 'Have you let John out on his own again?' HAH!)
Anony I leave the bagpipes to you. I could manage the Darth Vader mask and kilt I suppose.
Thank you, Mycroft, but you may have set the bar a bit high for us.
Ahahahahaha! I don't know how to ride unicycle but I bet we could find a Darth Vader mask to go with John's kilt and bagpipes! Oh, and a cape!
I have a feeling we should skip the unicycle. I mean, it adds panache to the entire spectacle, but, well, capes have a tendency to get caught and we don't want John out with an injury.
He's very lucky I can't ride a unicycle...
*giggling helplessly*
Thank you, Mycroft--I really needed that, it's wonderful!
Right, you lot. As promised, Greg Lestrade, Rock God in Training is now edited into my post.
Have at it.
Danger - so you will play the bagpipes for the Jammy Badgers??
great pics Greg :-)
If we are adding bagpipes to the Jammy badgers we have to all have kilts it just has to be done!!
Anony
Oh my...the photos. You really looked the part there, O Rock God. *applauds*
Obviously I need much cooler hair to sing for our mighty band. This much I can tell.
I was thinking more of embarrassing him at the next parents' day at his school...
Ha, those pictures. Is it bad I think you're adorable in all of them? I suspect that wasn't the look you were going for.
*looks at tongue in first pic*
*looks at http://mr-o.com/news/wp-content/uploads/2008/06/kiss2.jpg*
Prosecution rests.
(I really like your jacket in the second. God how were you so cool?)
I can cope with kilts - very punk!
Calliope - You can always wear a bandana!
Danger - you're allowed to think that. Now. Back then I might not have appreciated it...
DW - That's probably why she sent it! There was a far more...tongue-y one, which I censored.
And I don't think I was that cool... But there were probably some Dads who sighed with relief when it turned out I wouldn't be trying to go out with their daughters ;)
I'm sure I wouldn't have thought it back then!
You're not alone in the vote for adorable, John!
Not bandanas--wigs. Then the hair can match the kilts, without involving chemicals. :)
Matching hair and kilts? Sounds like a euphemism...
Then the hair can match the kilts,
*snerk* Well done, RR.
I wasn't the only one, admit it.
can you get tartan wigs RR
Adorable is about the only word that does those photos true justice :-)
Anony
Or...I could just die my hair bright red or some other Jam-y color. :)
(So adorable. Love the last one.)
We could all go for different colours depending on our favourite flavour of Jam?
Anony
My hair did used to be about the same colour as Marmite. Which is my favourite flavour of jam.
yes but it's not any more so you'll have to die it some colour ;-)
Anony
That's your answer for dark brown?! Unfair!! I don't want to be Marmite!! Doooooooooooooooc make him stoooooooooooooooooooooooop.
I WAS thinking tartan, but you can take it however you like. ;)
Marmite is not a jam!
No, don't set Doctor Nanny on me! I just meant that's MY favourite flavour, and coincidentally my old hair colour. You can choose what you want!
And I should go to bed...
Marmite is very like jam...
(except, y'know, nice and tasty, not yucky)
You do realise you tell us you should go to bed many hours before you ever actually do don't you ;-)
Marmite is like Jam just as Rugby is like football!!
Anony
It's a...spread. Or something. Something that is not a jam.
Bed would be nice.
Ways in which Marmite is like jam:
1. It's spreadable
Ways in which Marmite is not like jam:
1. It's gross
2. It tastes like where jam goes to die
3. It's icky
4. It's made by wasps, thugs of nature
5. It doesn't taste good.
Yes, I see how it's exactly like jam. ;P
Marmite is my favourite jam flavour too. Which is why I voted for jam yesterday in your poll, Doctor Nanny.
And yes, the photos are adorable.
Okay, okay, I didn't want to make all you jam weirdos feel bad. But you're right. Jam is nothing like marmite. Marmite is lovely and smooth and tasty and savoury and versatile and delicious and brilliant and full of vitamins and good stuff.
Jam is sticky and sickly and grows furry mould and is full of pips and Badgers and sugar and horribleness.
Just in case you actually are going to bed Greg and John sleep well :-)
I love the description of how marmite is not like Jam DW :-)
Anony
versatile
Oh, really? Do tell....
In truth Jam and Marmite are both wrong and ketchup is the only way to go ;-)
Anony
Definitely going to bed. You lot think about how wrong you are ( apart from you, SH).
Versatile because you can eat it, drink it, cook with it, and apparently keep Danger at bay with it...
What's that, John? You want me to show you my strumming technique? On my way, darling! :)
You don't find it at all worrying that marmite apparently never goes off?
Greg, thanks for the (yes it was) very helpful advice. I have been dancing around the subject a bit, but I am so incredibly lucky at the moment to have someone who cares about me a great deal (no seriously, he's offering, entirely unprovoked, to come support me in a disciplinary hearing at my uni) that I want to share a bit more of myself with them.
I was actually considering writing it down, it's a lot easier than saying it aloud, I just keep stumbling over the words.
On a happier note, isn't it lovely weather in London this week? What are you planning to do on your free days when you work nights? I'll make a humble suggestion of the Italian Gardens in Hyde Park (my local), it's unbelievably peaceful and romantic, but you can still tear round with Sherlock :)
And I'd be apricot jam! Nom
It's so delicious no one has ever kept it long enough to see if it goesoff, you mean?
I think it'd brilliant it don't go.off! Not like furry jam..
Going by the looks, I suspect marmite is a byproduct of motor oil.
Marshmallow Fluff--THERE's a spread. With peanut butter. :)
Jaws - I'm so glad it was helpful.
Italian Gardens sounds like a great idea! Might even get there Friday, when the boy wonder is at school, to enjoy the peace and quiet with John.
I think you've got it backward, RR. Motor oil is what comes out of squeezing Marmite.
How do you feel about jammy fur, Lestrade?
Marmite: the Twinkie of the jam world.
This might sound horrid, but given the choice between telling someone and not telling someone about an assault, I'd definitely choose not. I can count on one hand the number of people that I've told in my life, and I have to say that I regret doing so.
Not because they're horrible! Quite the opposite in fact. But you felt like all of your interactions with people that you tell are colored by the fact that they knew-- like they 're looking at your character and assuming that anything flawed or negative had to be because of what happened, and not just part of who you are. People think, "Oh she's too shy/he works too much/she's stand-offish/he never talks to anyone outside of work. It must be because of what happened to them."
I'm not expressing myself well. But-- just make sure that you're willing to deal with the fact that the way your SO looks at you is going to change. Not necessarily in a bad way, but things will be different.
Sorry to bring down the mood, everyone.
That is exactly why I never have ria you put it better than I did earlier :-)
Strange that puttin it here has changed something in me today though and now I'm no longer worried that I haven't told anyone if that makes sense.
Anonymous from earlier.
Fluffernutters, RR? I'd never have guessed! ;)
I prefer jelly (The American type) myself. Apple jelly, homemade, if possible. (And marmite is...I cannot explain the face I made when I tried it.)
But you felt like all of your interactions with people that you tell are colored by the fact that they knew
Or worse for me, that your perceptions of yourself are. How do you know what's really you, how you would have been before, and what's a result of the assault?
- New Anon
Fluffernutters, Maz. :)
Clearly Mycroft is only being exposed to the best of YouTube. Hi, Mycroft,it's good to see you hanging around.
I've never tasted Marmite. So I guess I'll have to dye my hair blue.
Holy tense shifts, Batman! I should have looked through that more carefully.
New Anon-- true. I struggle with that, because I was 8 when it happened, so for all I know I would be a completely different person if it hadn't. It still sucks when people assume, though. I feel like people are trying to give me an excuse for my behavior (I can be really shy until I get to know people well), and I don't want that. In a perfect world, I would be able to tell people about it and they would just never think about it again, and wouldn't use it to analyze all of my emotional reactions.
I'm going to tell you 'new anon' that you have to accept who you are now and not worry about what might have been if things hadn't happened.
You are who you are and that is a sum total of ALL your experiences in life not just one event if doesn't define you anymore than anything else you have done or not done or had happen to you.
I'm not going to say its easy though.
Anonymous from earlier
Am I the only one who thinks that the word "fluffernutters" sounds vaguely filthy?
*is shocked*
Ria! I never!
*clutches pearls*
*ahem*
http://youtu.be/O6gljDcLrvQ
*Womanfully refrains from making jokes about pearl necklaces*
Only vaguely ria ;-)
Anony
Peanut butter is good with honey, too.
*creeps in* Hi all, I'm popping in to let you know that work was pretty good today. I ended up reading an entire quality control manual from cover to cover, so my brain is fried/melted/non-functional. However, I think I'm going to be fairly happy at my position. The place seems pretty friendly, and my boss is very patient. I'm being...cautiously optimistic.
There are a couple of downsides - freezing kitchen, long commute, and no access to the blogs! So I will be around very early, or very late, depending on how my commute goes.
~A from NW
AfNW, I hope your are, cube or office, is comfortable, and that today is a harbinger. Good luck!
Ria, Anon and New Anon, I think it all goes back to earlier, and there being no correct response or way of feeling. There also isn't one way of telling - or not telling - anyone. It is very difficult.
A - so glad your first day was good!
(i don't mean it's difficult telling people, if you choose to - although I think it is. I mean it's difficult deciding if you want to tell someone. Very. Because of the points raised earlier.)
Thanks again Greg :-)
Hope you have a nice quite day at work.
Anonymous from earlier
AfNW, that's great! We'll keep the light on for hu. :)
I'm going to have to start calling you Early Anon or something :) thanks - I prefer a slightly busy day. Quiet usually means too much paperwork and too many meetings!
Does anyone else think it's rather wonderful to be part of a blog where people (including me) can mention things they've never mentioned elsewhere? And where even the Anonymouses have their own names.
Early anon is leaving the building, going back to being who I normally am, thanks for everything yesterday everyone.
SH you are so right this place is amazing :-)
Greg hope you have a very very busy day every day you have to work but that there are no victims of the crimes you are dealing with!!
xx
L, do you at least get some days off this week in lieu of the nights you're working this weekend?
Not really in lieu of, but I do get days off. I'm off Thursday.
SH and Early Anon, one of the things I like about the blogs is that you don't have to be a member, you can join in under whatever name you want or Anon and I think that helps it be a place people can feel safe talking about things. i hope it does.
SH you are right this place is great and the fact that I can go by no other name than Anony and people here still know who I am when I speak is amazing.
Hope you're working hard Greg we wouldn't want you getting bored ;-)
Anony
L - it's definitely a place where people feel safe talking about things and you and the Doc should take the credit for making it so.
Anony - that's exactly what I was trying to say: people start as Anonymous and then the name changes slightly so we know who it is speaking. I think that's great.
Yes, you guys have definitely made this a little safe haven for not only discussion, but for people to sort of...lose their internet-ness, if you know what I mean - sort of drop pretenses and just hang out and talk to people. So thank you for that, too.
And as for that last picture...woah. You're a damn lucky man, Doc. I'd keep that one in my wallet for gazing longingly at when L's on nights. *fans self*
It's not just us who've made it like this - it's all of you, who are so nice and kind to us and each other.
I honestly could never have imagined it would work out like this when the boys made me this page.
I hope you and John have something fun planned for Thursday, then! (Maybe a chance for you to exercise your new license, John? :))
I agree with you about the hanging-out-ness of the blogs, Maz!
I know cyber hugs are rubbish compared to real ones but I think today it a day when the whole of John and Greg's blogs readership should partake in a group cyber hug :-) So I'm sending hugs to all.
Friends and community are found in the strangest places :-)
So what is the plan for Thursday Greg? will you be cramming a your whole weekends plans into one day or will you be taking advantage of a day with Sherlock at school and having fun (in whatever form two grown men can come up with!) ;-)
Anony
I imagine John's working Thursday morning, I don't know. He hasnt said he isn't. Then I'm sure we'll find ways to amuse ourselves before fetching Sherlock from school.
A from NW - glad work's going well for you so far. :)
L - I am indeed working Thursday morning. If you want to pick me up, we could get lunch somewhere afterward?
There are few greater joys in my life than picking you up. And then you can take us to lunch somewhere :)
Good day today? Kept all those nasty germs at bay I hope.
Oh great, sneaky child free shift worker entertainment for Thursday ;-) I'm glad you're going to make good use of the time :-)
Anony
And then you can take us to lunch somewhere
Encouraging me to drive in city traffic? Amazing. :)
Yeah, not bad. You?
Hmmm, picking up a str...er, familiar man. Sounds like a plan! :)
I could take us out of the city, and you could do the rest, if you wanted. Depends how you feel weaving through traffic with a lump of boyfriend sitting on the back.
Day's ok. Brought someone in earlier, spent a few hours being insulted, let them go again. The usual fun.
I feel perfectly all right about it, and you are not a lump. Just don't want to make you more nervous than necessary.
Was it useful at all?
Useful for raising my blood pressure.
I know he knows something. He knows there's no way I can make him talk.
You can definitely drive then. Be more nervous if I wasn't with you, I think?
And on a (probably) completely different subject--Sherlock, has it been decided whether your class is going to perform the play you all wrote for an audience?
"Just don't want to make you more nervous than necessary."
Tell us, Dr. Hotson, what is the daily recommended allowwance of nervousness for an average adult male Lestrade?
Approximately fifteen nervens, not to surpass twenty five.
L - Sherlock informs me he could trick that man into talking using marmite and degus. I haven't asked for details.
A wide choice, I think...
He knows the score, unfortunately, and has been.playing this game a long time.
Just want to come home and have a hug now.
Wise
Are you stuck there till he talks Greg or does there come a point where you get to go home and have your hug and leave it till tomorrow?
Anony
Let him go already, Anony. I'm just stuck here until day shift ends at 7.
Not long till 7 I guess, Hope there are lots of hugs waiting for you when you get home :-)
Anony
Sounds like a frustrating day all round, L. (Maybe you can get Sherlock to divulge his trick for future consideration. :))
No more than usual, really.
Sadly most of Sherlock's ideas don't entirely work out once laws are applied. But they are very creative.
But they are very creative.
Heh, so I would think. :) I imagine they are good for bringing down that elevated blood pressure through visualizations, though!
Looks like we need to pack up and go on a blog crawl again. If everyone can pick up their own bags we can head off ;)
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