Who's the Daddy??
Well...not me. As most of you will have gathered, my sperm is going...well, none of your business ;) but there's only one doctor who's going to be doing anything with it, and it's not Jo and Lisa's fertility doc.
They were completely lovely about it all, and I really didn't feel pressured to do anything I didn't want to.
I'll admit there was an initial moment of 'Wow! The chance to have a baby!' but then reality kicked in, and Jo explained exactly what she and Lisa had agreed about how much involvement the father would have in the child's life, and I told her about John and the boys and...
Well, honestly, it's John and the boys which have changed things a lot. I think. Not that I'd ever thought about it before. But anyway, I think I'd find it far too hard not to play a big role in any child's life. As in...want to be there every day. Even when I've been away from Sherlock and Mycroft for a few days they change - and every time Mycroft comes home from school he's grown and changed and I wouldn't want to miss all that.
John also had reservations - which he can tell you about if he chooses. And we talked it through a lot, although I'd sort of made my mind up that it probably wasn't the thing for me.
The bigger thing, really, is that I can't imagine 'having' a child with anyone who isn't John. I'd want him to be half of it. I'd want him to be right there, sharing everything. Well, science isn't there yet, but I think that the two of us and the boys are the closest I could ever wish for. And I have that. So anything else...well, I'd be doing it for the wrong reasons, and it wouldn't work out. I can't be the person Lisa, Jo and their baby need. But I'm sure they'll find the right bloke. And I know a good nanny...
So, just in case some of you are wondering how come they asked me at all, I should probably add a short history of our friendship.
Jo and I met through Bryan. We used to run into each other at various private views and parties. She was always the life and soul, but never into half of the drugs or anything anyone else was. And she's the sort of person that 'stuff' happens to. (Like John.) (And now I expect both of them are reading this...) So it was me she called when her water tank split and her ceiling fell in on Christmas Eve... and me she called when she locked herself out. All four times. And so our friendship grew. But when Bry and I split up, I pretty much worked myself into the ground and didn't see anyone for far too long, because it seemed easier to cut myself off from everyone completely than answer all the questions. So I'm really glad we're back in touch. And I hope to see a lot more of both of them, as John seemed to get along with both of them, and they actually live pretty close. We already have a return invite to dinner. :)