3 December 2011

Understand that sexuality is as wide as the sea.

 Understand that sexuality is as wide as the sea. Understand that your morality is not law. Understand that we are you. Understand that if we decide to have sex whether safe, safer, or unsafe, it is our decision and you have no rights in our lovemaking.
Derek Jarman



So, after all of yesterday's drama today was pretty calm.

We made pancakes for breakfast, then Sherlock went down to Mrs Hudson and John and I headed to Harrow via the pet shop. We met up with Mycroft, Anthea and the dogs in the park. Presented the dogs with their new chews - those big weird marrowbone things, and a chewy/throwing toy for them each. They seemed satisfied.


Mycroft was quiet, but then I don't think any of us really knew what to say. It's sort of harder to defend other people/be defended than it is to do it all to yourself, I suppose. There's a ... weight of responsibility, on all sides. I mean, we are proud of him, and we love him, and of course we're touched that he would defend us and our relationship. And he's sorry that he 'caused trouble' and hit the boy. But...yeah, neither John or I can pretend we'd have done different. I don't know, it's just a mess, sin't it? I think when he comes home after next week it'll be good for all of us. That probably didn't make a lot of sense. Sorry.


We went for coffee, spent a while together, and then John and I headed off. We went down to Dungeness again. Suited the mood quite well, all that desolate shingle. It was nice to spend time together, just walking and holding hands. Underrated pastime, walking in silence. It was nice. And Dungeness was looking good. We found the big sound mirror things this time, and the Pluto sheds. We'll have to take the boys next time, I think they'd both love it. I like it because if you go to the right bits of it you can believe there's no one else in the world. Forget about everything but the person you're with.

 sound mirrors.

59 comments:

Tink said...

Give Mycroft a hug from DW and I. You sound like you needed the alone time with John and I'm glad you got it.

*snuggles for all*

Desert Wanderer said...

I would never use the word "snuggles," but the sentiment is the there.

As a serious question, what is the difference between "safe" and "safer" in that context?

John H. D. Watson said...

Are you two still out having a lovely time? Shopping for slightly worrying Christmas presents?

Greg 'Orio' M F Lestrade said...

DW - I'd say that 'safe' was using every single possible way to protect yourself from any possible STI/STDs, whereas 'Safer' was using protection for riskier activities, but making your own choices about what those were and where to draw the line.

But I couldn't tell you for sure what Jarman meant by it, that's just my interpretation.

Thanks to both of you.

Tink - I think we really did.

Greg 'Orio' M F Lestrade said...

DW, Tink, John told me what he really wanted for Christmas, but I'm having trouble finding a supplier.

if you stumble across one, pick it up? I'll pay you back, with post and packing.

http://ficdn.fashionindie.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/exterface_unicorn_03.jpg

Greg 'Orio' M F Lestrade said...

(So, to answer your previous question, if the pink matches that pink, that'd be fine. Otherwise the purple will probably tone nicely? I do hate it when outfits clash...)

John H. D. Watson said...

That is more than just slightly worrying...

Greg 'Orio' M F Lestrade said...

More worrying that it exists, or that I found it whilst looking for presents for you? ;)

I presumed with your love of Federicorn....

Rider said...

To turn Lestallion into Federicorn?

That would be all his Christamases coming at once!

Greg 'Orio' M F Lestrade said...

I won't be putting on a Swiss accent, I can assure you.

Anon Without A Name said...

An accent is the thing you're worrying about putting on? Not the pink latex assless chaps?

Well OK then.

Rider said...

No Swiss accent just tight purple shorts with a very obvious horn.

(the capcha thing said shavi, I will not enquire further)

(someone else can)

Greg 'Orio' M F Lestrade said...

I never actually said I'd be the one wearing it...

But I presumed that was what Rider was implying, so I was just saying it because I'd really rather John wasn't actually fantasising about Federer in any intimate situation involving me. Doesn't do much for the ego, you know?

But whilst pink isn't generally my colour, it wouldn't be the first time I'd worn bumless chaps... ;)

dw said...

Omg Tink just made the most high-pitched squeal when I read that.to her. The pink glitter matches best, I think. Hope you don't already have a pair of gloves.

(what? What did you.think I was talking about?)

Pictures forthcoming.

Small Hobbit said...

I'm sure that the Lestallion is vastly superior to the Federicorn.

And I'm glad to hear you had a nice time silently holding hands. There is a great comfort in knowing that you don't need to say anything for the other person to be aware of what you're thinking.

Tink said...

I do not deny the squeal. :D

John: Yes, yes we are. Though we're shopping for non-alarming things at the moment... Mycroft is surprisingly hard to shop for!

Anon Without A Name said...

it wouldn't be the first time I'd worn bumless chaps... ;)

I'll sounds like a dirty old woman if I ask about photos, won't I? Feel free to give us all the sordid detail though :-p

Glad you all had a good, if slightly awkward at times, day. How's Anthea today?

Tink, DW - sounds like you guys are having an awesome time :-)

John H. D. Watson said...

I am deeply concerned about your sanity. All of you.

An accent is the thing you're worrying about putting on?

I suppose he has to draw the line somewhere...

Greg 'Orio' M F Lestrade said...

DW - pink glittery gloves will match Danger Sparkle's jacket perfectly he'll look amazing when we're out and about, as well as amazing at home!

Going to give me a medical, Doc? Check if I'm just wrong in the head, or in other places too?

Nameless - I'm not sure how much more sordid the detail can get without really being rather too sordid. I mean...I was wearing bumless chaps! Everything after that fact becomes rather...well, unsuitable for a family blog.

John H. D. Watson said...

I'm fairly certain you're due for a check up, yes.

You might've been wearing them at the ManHole, or otherwise in a more or less public situation...

Greg 'Orio' M F Lestrade said...

I'm all yours Doc. Or do I need a vet? I'm not sure myself anymore...

ManHole wasn't suitable for a family blog either!

Let's just say that my youth probably had as many fashion faux pas as a Robin Sparkles video does. Add to the fact that both gay clubs and the 80s weren't exactly tasteful separately, let alone together, well...

Desert Wanderer said...

Well, you are a silver fox...

(cue self-depricating "grey mongrel" comment)

John H. D. Watson said...

Or do I need a vet?

Only if you have plans to dress up as a purple sparkly Swiss unicorn.

That does sound like a match made in a Robin Sparkles video.

Greg 'Orio' M F Lestrade said...

Only if you have plans to dress up as a purple sparkly Swiss unicorn.

Not tonight, dear. Got tired fetlocks from riding the bike for so long. Not used to long rides any more. Get tired. Need to more to strengthen my wrists. I don't suppose you've got any suggestions...?

John H. D. Watson said...

I could probably think up a few therapeutic exercises...

Greg 'Orio' M F Lestrade said...

I'm so lucky to have you

John H. D. Watson said...

Funny, I've been thinking the same thing about you all day.

Greg 'Orio' M F Lestrade said...

That I'm so lucky to have you? ;) Good, cos I am.

John H. D. Watson said...

Is there an emoticon for eye-rolling?

Also, is it time for bed?

Greg 'Orio' M F Lestrade said...

Time to hit they hay, you mean?

Hang on...let me watch you while you read that.

Greg 'Orio' M F Lestrade said...

The hay...even. Tsk.

And no, no emoticon would convey the full eye roll you exhibit.

John H. D. Watson said...

It's a skill I've developed over many years, but one I feel hasn't reached its full potential until just recently.

Greg 'Orio' M F Lestrade said...

Glad I bring your talents out.

C'mon then. Bed, gorgeous.

John H. D. Watson said...

Thank you for today. It was really nice.

Greg 'Orio' M F Lestrade said...

Thank you, too. And for yesterday. You handled everything perfectly.

Tomorrow thought we could get you back on the bike? Maybe even let Sherlock have another little ride, as he's sort of missed out on everything today. Bit of a treat for him.

John H. D. Watson said...

I'd love to, and I'm sure he'll be ecstatic.

Greg 'Orio' M F Lestrade said...

Mm. Didn't want to say anything until he was asleep, or he never would have been.

However, if you're too excited to sleep, I can help with that...get to bed!

John H. D. Watson said...

Going right now...

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Tink said...

Aaaand DW is on her way home, and I am curled up with the laptop :D Hope you two have a lovely evening of each other. And manage to sleep some <3

Bronwyn said...

@.@

Eyeroll
Bronwyn

Greg 'Orio' M F Lestrade said...

Bronwyn, I thought about that for eye roll, but it looked more like when cartoons have those hypnotic spiral eyes. Danger doesn't have them. I don't think...

REReader said...

Good morning! (Or rather, good afternoon. :) )

Hope you lot are out doing something fun and maybe a bit silly today...

Greg 'Orio' M F Lestrade said...

John is currently on the Striple. Sherlock is on my shoulders.

I'm trying to remain calm...

REReader said...

Well, at least one of you is having fun! Will Sherlock be able to get a ride today?

Anon Without A Name said...

Deep breaths, Lestrade. Deep breaths :-)

Greg 'Orio' M F Lestrade said...

Sherlock had a ride in front of me, sort of sitting on the tank. And then, because John is very kind, he had a fast ride, being held onto tightly by John behind me. (By 'faster' I don't mean 'fast'. I just mean when he's just on with me we go very slowly.)

He's torn - he prefers sitting in front of me so he can see, but he likes going faster...

Think we're all wearing matching grins, anyway.

REReader said...

*big grin*

Sounds lIke a very excellent day.

KHolly said...

And I suppose by the time he's tall enough to look over your shoulder so that he can see and go fast he'll be big enough to just ride one himself.

John H. D. Watson said...

Bronwyn & L - if I could hypnotise people with my eye-rolls, I would rule the world by now.

Greg 'Orio' M F Lestrade said...

You hypnotise me when I look into your eyes...

John H. D. Watson said...

I promise never to make you cluck like a chicken.

REReader said...

I notice that leaves quite a bit of room for things you might make him do... :D

Greg 'Orio' M F Lestrade said...

I'll need guarantees about neighing and...whatever noises unicorns might make, really. Those being more your area. Chickens hadn't crossed my mind (why would a chicken cross my mind?)

John H. D. Watson said...

To get to the other side.

No neighing, unicorn noises, or 80s dance moves.

Desert Wanderer said...

'cause '90s dance moves were so much better...

Anonymous said...

You all deserve a fun day and I really hope that Mycroft is having a quiet Sunday and that he'll soon be with you.

Greg 'Orio' M F Lestrade said...

no dance moves whatsoever.

You can sing backing lyrics to my guitar playing if you want, though? And Sherlock. Going to play one of my favourites.

Tink said...

Guys, I just wanted to thank you again for getting DW and I to meet :D Your blogs do more good than you intended I think!

That said, I've always wanted to try hypnotism. I think it would be fun!

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